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Monday, January 16, 2012

Our Sweet Lady


There was the medication that was supposed to help her memory...but it made her withdrawn, irritable and lethargic. She didn't want to interact with anyone, wasn't participating in the activities.

Then there was the doctors office that was slow to respond and reluctant to stop the medication, the doctor and my husband had a difference of opinion...the doctors point... it COULD slow the disease process... our point.... at what cost??.. so she remembers a little longer but is miserable....she made her wishes known above the debate...the medication has been stopped. (wondering why we didn't just stop the med ourselves, because she is in an Assisted Living facility and they will not stop a med once it's started without an order)

Then there was the holidays, more time away from that which is familiar. Spending more time with  family that is pretty laid back when it comes to schedules....when you need routine, this can be unsettling. What we thought would be enjoyable was actually more stressful to her.

Things are getting back to normal for her....routine....She took a picture of her grandparents farm off her wall to show a staff member the other day. The staff member said it brought a tear to her eye....she knew Sweet Lady was back.

8 comments:

Nancy said...

We have a sweet lady of our own so I know what you are going through.......Memories of the past that are sweet and fleeting and decisions to make that you never thought you would have to face....

My heart is with you....my lesson has been to enjoy the moments...

Debbie said...

Oh I have a feeling this is in our future too. : ( Sooo glad you got it all figured out and she is back! Have a wonderful day....HUGS

Debbie said...

I read this with a lump in my throat. We haven't been down that road (yet), but I am praying some dear friends down it and have been for a while. My heart goes out to you.

Sassy Granny ... said...

Both sets of our parents are gone now; and, thankfully, none suffered in this fashion. No matter ... it was painful none-the-less to see our once robust, vital loved ones lose ground.

Thank God your mother has someone who loves her and is looking out for her best interests.

Peace & blessings,
Kathleen

WhiteStone said...

It's good to be reminded that "routine" is good. Bless your Sweet Lady.

Janette@Janette's Sage said...

Oh I can so relate...we are dealing with some sweet ladies in our life...such hard decisions need to be made, while we continue to honor and love them.

Creations By Cindy said...

Praying for your family.

Petra said...

This hit home! My late mom's medical staff tried to push such medication and, thanks to their thorough explanation of its possible side effects, I did not consent. As her memory declined, her sweetness and God's providence through it all increased! Hard to explain!